Accidentally in LOVE?

Who Ever Loved, That Loved Not at First Sight? By Christopher Marlowe

Saturday, October 5, 2013

12:51 PM

"It lies not in our power to love or hate,

For will in us is overruled by fate,

When two are stripped, long ere the course begin,

We wish that one should love, the other win;

And one especially do we affect

Of two gold ingots, like in each respect:

The reason no man knows, let it suffice,

What we behold is censured by our eyes.

Where both deliberate. The love is slight:

Whoever loved, that loved no at first sight?"

Christopher Marlowe was an English dramatist, poet and translator in the Elizabethan era.  In his poem "whoever loved, that loved not at first sight?" Marlowe tries to approach to the more spiritual aspect of love. As he says in the poem, love is not based on a decision that a certain individual takes.  It's not up to the will of that individual. It's something decided by his or her destiny. It's been chosen for us by our destiny without our knowledge, and when the right time comes the two individuals who are meant to spend their lives together are been met by the destiny itself.

When that chosen person is met by our destiny, it doesn't matter who that person is, from where that person is from, what’s that person is doing. We just immediately fall in love with that person.  This is simply the "love at first sight" and it's defiantly not an accident, it's something that's meant to be and the beauty of it is we don't know the reason why we love him or her.  It's just happens and it's quite unexplainable.

And all the things happen after that is like a movie, pre directed by the destiny. So when these two persons who are meant to be with each other is been met, the one should love the other and the other one should love him or her back. It's something certain, it's something like a program that cannot be altered.

And after that they should be with each other. No matter what happens they should not leave each other. They must have the possibility to solve their problems, and they must get adopted according to each other. They should be sensitive to each other and they should try to think alike. They should be willing to make individual sacrifices just for the betterment of both. They should not make each other feel alone in happiness nor in sadness. And finally they should be able to live with each other happily forever. But sometimes we may feel why are we doing these? Do we really want to do these? Why are we doing these for only one person? We may never find an answer for that. Actually that's what love is. It's always unexplainable.

May be the person that we love have a lot of imperfections. But for the person who loves won't feel it in that way. To that person his or her lover is the most perfect person on earth. It's truly because that's what his or her heart desires.  That's what we wanted our lover to be, "perfect". And that's exactly how we see him or her. Love blinds our vision, and shows only what we really desires. Not the reality.  So we won't recognize the imperfections in that person. We don’t care about them at all. We always think in a positive way. We always try to justify their bad side and will try to see the good in them.

Love cannot be forced. People fall in love willingly. Sometimes it just happens in the most unexpected way. And when you are in love you do all the crazy things to keep that person happy and keep that person close to you. You make sacrifices for them which sometimes don’t even give you a proper meaning. You do all these things for a person who you just started to love suddenly. You may never have known him or her before. In a way that person may be a true stranger to your life. And when someone questions, why do you love that person? Why are you doing all these things for that person? You become speechless. You will struggle to find a proper answer.

But in the end you won't be able to tell a reason. That's truly what love is. It's always unexplainable. And that's the beauty of it.

And finally we can say,

"Love is something that meant to be, when the right time comes it just happens and it's always unexplainable"

By Sachintha M.D.R